As your marriage celebrant, one of my roles is to help you with your Wedding Vows.
What are wedding vows? Promises each partner makes to the other partner during the wedding ceremony. There are two types of vows, legal and personal.
What are the legal vows? These are promises that must be said at the wedding with some minor changes allowed to the wording (which I can advise you on):
I call upon the persons here present to witness that I, [full legal name of one party] take thee [full legal name of other party] to be my lawful wedded wife/husband/spouse.
What are the personal vows? You do not have to say personal vows at your wedding but if you choose to, my advice is to keep it simple, write from your heart and if necessary "borrow". I have a booklet of sample vows that I send all my couples to assist them with writing their own vows (but never do I include a couple's own personal vows from one of my weddings). I can also write your personal vows for you with your guidance.
Do I have to learn my vows off by heart? Definitely not nor do you have to write up your own palm cards. Your vows will be typed up and included in one of my numerous fabric covered booklets (chosen by you). At the wedding rehearsal I will show you how to read your vows by one party holding the book and the other reading their vows and both of you still touching. Photos below might help you visualise this.
Where am I when you say your vows? I prefer to stand off to the side as these promises are between two people only (and also makes for much more romantic photos). However, if you prefer me by your said I'll be there!!!